"There are many reasons why people ought never to be introduced to the acquaintance of each other, without the consent of each party previously obtained. A man may suit the taste, and be agreeable enough to one, without being equally so to the rest of his friends - nay, as it often happens, decidedly unpleasing; a stupid person may be delighted with the society of a man of learning or talent, to whom in return such an acquaintance may prove annoyance and a clog, as one incapable of offering an interchange of thought, or an idea worth listening to."

Harsh words from the author of "Hints on Etiquette and the Usages of Society". However, very important if a young Lady was to gather about her, people who could be of most use to her husband. In the upper and middle classes it was vitally important to introduce the right people to the right people and cut out the unwanted. In the novel "War and Peace" the beginning of the book is characterised by the unwonted attentions of a lower middle class woman upon an upper class gentleman. The women is trying to secure a safe and lucrative position for her only son, but she makes herself ridiculous and a nuisance by ignoring the social graces. This was the main reason for the rigid code of conduct; to protect the wealthy and powerful from the attentions of the lower classes.

The Victorian age was an age of change. A time in which humble shopkeepers were rising into prosperous merchants, and mechanics were becoming manufacturers. They aspired to ape their betters, however, they did not have the polish of breeding and manners. They brought vulgarity into the drawing room and though the tide of social mobility could not be turned, it could be snubbed.